- complete in natural growth or development, as plant and animal forms.
- ripe, as fruit.
- fully developed in body or mind, as a person.
- pertaining to or characteristic of full development.
- completed, perfected, or elaborated in the mind.
Do you ever stop and think about how far you’ve come? About the fact that you are everything now that you once wanted to be? And that you will, in time, become the person you now wish yourself to be in the future?
It’s so elementary to be discouraged about where you are in regards to where you want to be. Until you realize how far you have actually come, you cannot fully appreciate all that you now are.
Who you are now is pretty great. It’s something of a miracle, actually. The fact that you, human being, are able to sit there on your phone or computer and be able to read and interpret these words (that I am technically writing to you from the past) without second thought; the fact that you have a body and mind and soul which function without any manual effort really; the fact that you are alive, receiving the chance every moment to make your life something of a dream… something of your wildest dreams; those facts should be simple evidence of just how amazing it is to be a living, breathing, conscious, human being who happens to be existing safely and securely on a planet floating around in the middle of space, in the middle of the universe, in the middle of the infinite.
So when you think about it like that, do you have to stop and wonder “why?”
And we are not talking about the most obvious ‘why’ here of: why do I exist?
You exist to exist. You exist to experience. You are the meaning of life, after all.
The ‘why’ we are talking about is: why does it matter what really happens in this life or not? Why does it matter what title you have or how much money you make? Why does it matter if you are twenty or thirty or fifty or eighty years old, or black or white or purple, or fat or short or tall or skinny… shouldn’t we all just accept our authentic selves and simply do what we want to do, say what we want to say, dress how we want to dress, love who we want to love, live how we want to live?
This is the land of the free, is it not? So why aren’t we all free then?
What are you a slave to? What rules your mind? What is it you think you need in order to be happier?
This constant striving for something greater seems to be a necessity in helping us grow, transform and change… but it also seems to be something we let occupy our minds more than it actually should. It’s imperative to have goals, to have dreams, to use your imagination. But it’s equally as necessary to surrender to the way, the workings of the Universe, the Now, Faith in God, Yogic philosophy, teachings of The Toa, The Bible, The Quran… whatever you want to call it… just surrender to it a little bit every day. Fall back into this moment and continue to do so as often as you possibly can.
How? Use your breath. Each breath is your first breath in a brand new moment. Let each inhale and each exhale guide you back to inner stillness. Let the breath guide you back to where you started.
Deep breath in. Deep breath out.
And we are back to where we started… Maturity.
Who we are now is the most mature version of ourselves we can possibly be. That maturity is always evolving in so many ways we don’t yet appreciate. And as you saw in the definitions above, maturity has little to do with age and much to do with mindset.
Do you ever feel like you are mature beyond your years? Like you have this young physical body and a wise old soul? I do. And I think it’s a pretty spectacular advantage in this life! Youth is something we all want desperately. And paradoxically, so is maturity. We want to feel as energetic as a child, but as wise and secure and confident as a person who has experienced much life. We want to be young and free forever and at the same time, be taken seriously.
It can be hard for those of us who feel we are beyond our years to find a place we belong socially. My closest friends range in age from 17 to 60, and each one of them offers qualities I wish to embody. It’s easier to continue maturing when you’re surrounded by people more mature than you in one way or another.
What if maturity truly mattered more than age? What if quality of experience mattered more than quantity of experience? What if the love you have to offer shattered all preconceived notions of how a typical relationship should look like? What if life was more than going to school, finding one career to maintain for 40 years, settling down, getting married, having 2.5 children, getting old, retiring, then finally making time for all the things you always meant to do? What if we just fell in love without worrying what other people thought? What if we just jumped on a plane and traveled spontaneously to that country we have always dreamed about? What if we said ‘yes’ to opportunities that sometimes seem too good to be true? What if we just LIVED for each and every moment without fear of the future or regret of the past or care of what people think?