Have you ever laid on a beach & combed your fingers through the sand?
Watching closely as the tiny little particles shift & take new form with each stroke. Listening as waves meet the shore, changing the lay of the land with each rise & fall of tide. This is what I imagine as the words “Wabi Sabi” run over my tongue.
In a writing workshop I recently attended, we were asked to blindly draw two cards out of a small burlap bag. The two cards I picked contained the words “Wabi Sabi” & “Believe”. I had no idea at the time what the first meant, but I knew it was something I needed to learn. And “believe”? Well, I needed a major dose of that.
It’s too easy for me to surrender my belief in myself. I am quick to lose faith in what I am doing with my life. To feel like it all doesn’t matter. To doubt that all things will work out exactly as they should. To lack courage to pursue my dreams.
So, yes. Just BELIEVE.
Believe in yourself. Believe in your dreams.
Believe that what you are doing is good. Believe that things will get better.
Believe that you are loved. Believe that you are worthy.
Believe that you matter.
Feel sure of the truth of you.
Break down this word a bit and you find BE LIVE.
Believe that you are ALL you need to be by simply LIVING.
Once I was able to look up the meaning of “Wabi Sabi” I found such a connection with the definition. Essentially, it means that all things are in a constant state of imperfect transience. Like shifting sand, all of life is ever in flux & it can never be perfect. As if perfection even exists anyway, as I am finally convinced it surely does not.
“The aesthetic is sometimes described as one of beauty that is “imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete”. I like that. Especially the incomplete part.
As a student of yoga, a student of LIFE, I know that every moment of it is a practice.
Every moment is a chance to grow, to learn, to change.
Ever imperfect. Always impermanent. And so incredibly incomplete.
And THAT is why we are still here. That is why we are still alive. That is why I am writing these words and why you are reading them. Because we are living out our specific karma. And I mean the word karma in the way that we ALL have challenges to overcome & to learn from in this lifetime.
Maybe it’s addiction. Maybe it’s fear of death. Maybe it’s issues with your physical body. Maybe it’s disturbances in your mind. Maybe it’s imbalance in hormones. Maybe it’s sexual or physical or mental abuse. Maybe it’s all of the above… it has been for me. Whatever it is, we all have this suffering. Know that it exists equally within us all.
That’s hard to remember sometimes. We forget that in general life itself is absolutely phenomenal & we are so fortunate to be living at all. When we get so caught up in our own shit, stuck in our own story, stuck in our own drama that can make life seem unbearable, we forget that every single person on this planet is also struggling & usually in ways that are quite similar to our own.
Because my struggle is your struggle.
My fear is your fear.
My doubt is your doubt.
My joy is your joy.
My love is your love.
What is mine is yours & what is yours is mine.
“For Richard Powell, “[w]abi-sabi nurtures all that is authentic by acknowledging three simple realities:
nothing lasts, nothing is finished, and nothing is perfect.“
What is now is only now.
It will all surely change.
It is never quite as we imagine.
how good it feels
to be held
to be touched with kindness
to treat your body well.
How a smile can change your day.
How a compliment uplifts the dampest mood.
How fulfilling it is to breathe deeply.
we are all going through something difficult.
We are all in this together.
No one better or worse than another.